Updated: Feb 27
I just finished watching the Kobe & Gianna Bryant celebration of life. I cried, I smiled, I laughed. I also remembered the finality of death that we never really grasp. It seems that over the last month, so many people that I am somehow connected to have passed away, or have had a loved one pass away. 2 years ago, my dad passed away. Death brings a new reality, it brings loss and gaps, it brings old memories back, it brings awareness of what and who the person was. What I have learned is that we never really come to grasp the finality that death brings.
My Grams passed away 20 years ago and there are still days that I think of her in the present. Why? What I (in all my wisdom, or lack thereof) believe that the people who have meant the most to us never really are gone because they are woven into who we are, how we live, how we think, how we see the world…I could go on. When we lose someone who has meant so much to us it never feels real because they show up as we live our lives because they became a part of us. AND, in the same breath, the deep pain of their loss is gripping and overwhelming for this exact same reason. The emotions that come with the loss of a loved one, I don’t think can ever be explained, reasoned, nor logical. However, they are real, they are true, and they matter. Feel the feelings and be OK where you are, when you are there.